Asking for help. It is hard to do, and sometimes is uncomfortable. It is humbling to say ‘I don’t know how,’ or ‘what should I do?’ ‘I don’t know where to go’ or ‘when?’ It shows that we were unprepared, or not smart enough, or inexperienced. But asking for help is something that everyone needs to do.
If you are lost, you go to a map. The alternative is to wander around unsure and guess which street, highway, intersection is right. The uncertainty is stressful, but the pride of ‘knowing’ is sometime too strong. So you end up drifting from landmark to landmark. You outwardly show that you have no doubt that this time, this turn, this way is right, when in reality, you are trying to convince yourself. Perhaps the more confident you appear and act, the more right the way you take will be. But that isn’t the case.
Our spiritual life is often compared to a journey. But this journey isn’t one that is lead by way of GPS that tells us exactly to ‘turn right in half a mile.’ Life isn’t robotic. It is fluid, it is full of movement, it breaths, and changes, has re-routs and construction zones. It is different for everyone. But one thing that is true for each of us is that it is turbulent to travel alone.
We don’t know what will go on in our lives. And when life happens, we often sit in confusion, unsure, looking around. Where do we go from here, is it left? Or was it right? I thought I knew, but now I’m not sure.
The solution, ask for help. But while advice from parents, from peers, from spiritual directors, from friends is always helpful, we often forget to ask the one who should be the complete director of our lives – the Lord.
God wants us to do what is right, because what is right leads us to true joy and fulfillment. But He gave us the gift of freewill, and does not overstep His bounds. When we have questions, are lost, or unsure God, from the deepest recesses of His heart, desires to quench our anxiety, to help us. But He will not enter the heart that does not invite Him.
We need to allow Him permission to work in our souls. We need to dive into His guidance, humbly asking Him the way our lives should go. Through the Spirit, we learn the way we should walk. The Spirit lovingly opens our eyes to the path that is made clear. But we need to take the first step and humbly, prayerfully ask for that help. The Father, out of love and respect helps those who ask. We need to recognize out inability to travel alone, and ask for the guidance of the Spirit to enter our souls and move our hearts to do the Father’s will and ultimately to fulfilling joy which He calls us to.

